Suchi, a good close friend, once reacted on another common friend's engagement - "I dont know why ppl get engaged n all. Buttameez (shameless) bacche - desperation mein aakar they get engaged n all ..."
I remembered this when ...one more friend intimated me that she is getting engaged this month. I was thinking - well, how can ppl commit for life at age 25?
Reasons for not making the decision favor you more than reasons for making the decision:
1. If you date more you can explore more choice. More choice helps you make better decision - just like shopping. There is a risk of losing out on an earlier better candidate but there is also a risk of getting tied to something (or someone) without doing market research (I am talkin business now...:P check out my earlier post on Marriages as mergers/takeovers...) I agree marriage is about love and what you like and things like that - however, it is also about spiritual growth of both the partners when the initial attraction (blame Cupid for that) is over. With age and experience comes maturity and hence, enhanced judgment capacity for making a better choice.
2. There is a threat of getting older while taking time to make the decision - well, marrying till 29,30 is perfectly fine - given the fact that the life-expectancy is increasing and that kids start earning at earlier ages. However, this risk can be mitigated by focusing on checking out the options in the right range of age !
3. There is no need to retire early because you make more when you are older ....
Reason which someone gave me while advising to get married early is that one gets freed of material obligations earlier in life. But, with my points above, this is countered already !
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well said
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